In recent years couples have gotten interested in ways to solve their custody and property issues using processes which aim to avoid litigation. Most parties embarking on a separation recognize early on the value of an approach which uses mediation or lawyers who work collaboratively rather than preparing each case as if it will be litigated. It is important to keep in mind, however, that whatever one’s initial goals are, any method of resolving issues will work if both sides remain flexible and willing to work toward resolution.